In the last post, we touched on some of the difficult feelings that can come out over the holidays. Today, we’re going to talk about difficult feelings that can be hard to recognise because of the concepts with which they’re associated. Giving and receiving Two things that are supposed to be delightful and generous, leaving [...]
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According to many societies, the holidays are supposed to be a time for celebration, warmth, kinship and all-round festivities. But with these things come challenges. The holidays also bring out certain dynamics: pressures, fears, tension, dissatisfaction, and a sense that things aren’t living up to our expectations, that they aren’t as great as they’re supposed [...]
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In this post, we talked about procrastination, and how it prevents us working towards our goals, dreams and ambitions. Instead of creating a ‘how to’ containing practical tips and suggestions, we’re looking at the core beliefs and resistance that feed procrastination. It’s not an exhaustive list, so please feel free to add your own below. [...]
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Procrastination is a hard lesson. We’ve all experienced it at one point of another, and some us deal with it on regular basis. In minor form, procrastination is something that can be overcome with will power and rousing internal pep talks. In more chronic forms, however, it prevents us working towards or achieving goals, dreams [...]
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As the year draws to a close, it’s a good time to reflect on what has been, and what could be in the future. The Becoming Who You Are advent calendar is an opportunity to take a break from Christmas shopping, Turkey preparation and Slade for some personal time to evaluate the last 11 months and [...]
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Picture Credit: Open Letters This article leaves me feeling both inspired and sad. Inspired because I agree with a lot of the author’s points. Sad because it highlights a pretty big issue in the personal development world. The concept of ‘self-improvement’. I don’t like the phrase ‘self-improvement’. I’ve used it in the past but as I [...]
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‘People think that if they eat the same breakfast cereal Stephen King eats, they’ll write like Stephen King writes.’ – Seth Godin I love this quote, partly because I’ve fallen into this trap more times than I can remember, and partly because once you recognise this fallacy, why it doesn’t work and what we need [...]
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Last week, I wrote about giving positive and not-quite-so-positive feedback (hope that’s been going well!) This post is about the hardest feedback of all: unsolicited feedback. In other words, when we really, really want to give someone feedback about something (usually less-than-awesome feedback, otherwise it’s a compliment) but they haven’t asked for it. It’s tricky [...]
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So someone you know comes to you and asks you for feedback. Which is great, except, if you’re being honest, it’s not all unicorns and roses. If hearing not-quite-so-awesome feedback is difficult, it’s just as hard for even semi-nice people to dish it out. After all, we don’t want to come across as mean, critical [...]
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Last week, I wrote about the importance of feedback, and how it can make a huge difference towards improving our relationships. This week (it’s still feedback week!) it’s all about giving feedback. This is a huge area, so I’m going to break it up into: Awesome feedback Not-quite-so-awesome feedback, and Unsolicited feedback (i.e. When you [...]
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