In the last post, we touched on some of the difficult feelings that can come out over the holidays. Today, we’re going to talk about difficult feelings that can be hard to recognise because of the concepts with which they’re associated. Giving and receiving Two things that are supposed to be delightful and generous, leaving [...]
Tags:
Last week, I wrote about giving positive and not-quite-so-positive feedback (hope that’s been going well!) This post is about the hardest feedback of all: unsolicited feedback. In other words, when we really, really want to give someone feedback about something (usually less-than-awesome feedback, otherwise it’s a compliment) but they haven’t asked for it. It’s tricky [...]
Tags:
So someone you know comes to you and asks you for feedback. Which is great, except, if you’re being honest, it’s not all unicorns and roses. If hearing not-quite-so-awesome feedback is difficult, it’s just as hard for even semi-nice people to dish it out. After all, we don’t want to come across as mean, critical [...]
Tags:
Last week, I wrote about the importance of feedback, and how it can make a huge difference towards improving our relationships. This week (it’s still feedback week!) it’s all about giving feedback. This is a huge area, so I’m going to break it up into: Awesome feedback Not-quite-so-awesome feedback, and Unsolicited feedback (i.e. When you [...]
Tags:
I usually start the week with a song, so I thought this week I’d end with one too. Although I can’t remember the first time I heard this song, I remember waking up to the lyrics when I was about 19/20 and thinking, ‘Those guys really hit a nail on the head there…’ It pretty [...]
Tags:
Last week, I talked about the voices in our heads: where they come from, what they do and why they are useful. In this post, I’m sticking with the voices (they’re pretty happy about that) and talking about something we all know and despise: Overwhelm Oh, overwhelm. You suck. You creep up slowly like some [...]
Tags:
It’s the ultimate question: why are we here? Depending on who we ask, the answers might vary between: To do God’s work To partyyyyyy To wage war on others who don’t share the same value system as us To pave a better way for future generations To work with the state and increase our county’s [...]
Tags:
Daniel Mackler is a filmmaker and ex-psychotherapist from New York. I’m currently reading his book, Toward Truth, and have experienced an interesting ambivalence about some of the points he raises. On the one hand, part of me wants to agree with everything he says; on the other hand another part of me thinks ‘Yeah, but [...]
Tags:
“Your mind knows only some things. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always lead you down the right path.” – Henry Winkler Have you ever had one of those moments when you think you trust your gut, then look back several hours/weeks/months/years later, shake [...]
Tags:
When was the last time you didn’t plan your day? When you didn’t wake up thinking ‘OK, first I’m going to do this, then I’m going to do that and then I have to remember to do the other thing by this time otherwise…’ With all that doing, there’s very little time for us to [...]
Tags: