Let’s say goodbye to the month that has been and get ready for the next with a roundup of 10 questions, recommended reading, and fun/useful links.
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Hello friends, how has your March been? Mine was an odd mixture: on the one hand, this month felt like it draggggged on. On the other hand, I look back and wonder where all that dragging time went and what I have to show for it. This week, writing an upcoming blog post about the tension between self-acceptance and self-improvement, I was reminded this is part of life’s cyclical nature. February was an “on” time for me. March has been slower. And that’s how it goes: in work, in life, in all important things. We have times of focus, progress, development, and activity, and times of rest, research, rejuvenation and passivity. But now, as I write this, the days are getting longer, I’m feeling energised by a few days of beautiful sunshine, and I’m ready for April! Let’s say farewell to this month with a quick review:
10 Questions for you
1. What went well this month?
2. What was the highlight of this month?
3. And the lowlight?
4. Who was your favourite person to connect with this month?
5. What one lesson are you taking forward from this month?
1. If you could create one thing in April, what would it be?
2. What are you committed to not doing this month?
3. Imagine you are sitting here at the end of April and thinking about the month gone by. How will you know this has been a good month?
4. What area of your life would you most like to nurture during April?
5. What would you like to read/watch/listen to this month?
Articles of the Month
- What to do when your need to please is ruining your life
- Naive vulnerability vs. awake vulnerability
- These are the top 37 things you’ll regret when you’re old
- How friendships change over time in adulthood
- Flaking out is not self-care
- 25 ways to simplify your life in 10 minutes or less
- The opposite of addiction is connection
Quote of the Month
“The best way of avenging thyself is not to become like the wrongdoer.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
Book of the Month
After hearing this book recommended more times than I can count, I finally got around to reading When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi this month. Whew. It’s is a strange mixture of tough (because death) and life-affirming (for the same reason). If you’re not familiar with the backstory, Paul was a brilliant neurosurgeon who was diagnosed with terminal cancer at the age of 38. His book is part memoir, part reflections on death and uncertainty. It’s a deeply moving book that feels unfinished, because it is; Paul died before he could complete it. Although his writing is beautiful, his wife’s epilogue and description of his death was, for me, the most moving part. This isn’t light reading but, given death is a certainty at one point or another for us all, it’s a moving reminder to make the most of the time we do have because we don’t know how long that might be.
Useful Tool of the Month
What could you do with 100 days of making? Starting on April 4th and running up to and including July 12th. #The100DayProject is, as the name suggests, a commitment to making something for 100 days. This might be writing, singing in the shower, cooking, meeting new people or taking photos. Personally, I’m aiming for 100 days of hand lettering. I’ve been learning to letter for the last few months and I’m hoping this challenge will give me an opportunity to practice, practice, practice. What I love about the philosophy behind this challenge is it’s not about what you create by the end of the 100 days, rather the goal is to show up each day (or as often as you can). This is what makes a difference to anything we’re learning or doing in life and any area in which we’re trying to grow, so I hope you’ll join me in the challenge!
In case you missed it
- 5 ways to inspire your journaling practice
- No isn’t always a complete sentence
- 5 ways to improve your self-esteem in recovery
- The Johari Window: A useful framework for personal growth
- How to accept compliments with grace and gratitude
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