Goodbye February


Let’s say goodbye to the month that has been and get ready for the next with a roundup of 10 questions, recommended reading, and fun/useful links.patreon redA huge thank you to all the new patrons who have pledged their support this month: Elizabeth, Thomas, Stephanie, Jake, Lorraine, Katie, Jacqui, Free Press Publications and Alton. I appreciate your continued support! If you enjoy Becoming Who You Are and would like to help support the site and the work I do here, I am offering special perks and rewards for patrons so please check out my Patreon page.Although it's the shortest month of the year, February has felt jam-packed on this end! As well as launching the Patreon for Becoming Who You Are, I did some travelling with my husband and kiddo and made slow but steady progress with a few other projects I'm working on right now. Balancing baby and work isn't easy (I basically have 2 hours a day to do most things that require two hands) but I'm re-learning the importance of going with the flow, setting realistic expectations for myself, and focusing on the things that are truly important. There are some lessons in life I need to revisit on a regular basis, and these are three of them!I hope you have had a good month, let's get started with a quick review.

10 Questions for you

February:1. What went well this month?2.What lessons arrived with this month?3. What would you do differently if you could have a February do-over4. What were your predominant feelings this month?5. What did you create this month?March:6. What is the one thing that, if you started doing it in March, would have the biggest positive impact on your life?7. What is the one thing that, if you stopped doing it in March, would have the biggest positive impact on your life?8. What are you committed to creating in March?9. What are you looking forward to in March?10. What would make March awesome this year?

Articles of the month

Quote of the Month

The reality is we often become our kindest, most ethical selves only by seeing what it feels like to be a selfish jackass first. - Cheryl StrayedThis quote (from Tiny Beautiful Things, more on that below) made me both laugh and shake my head with painful recognition. I love it because it's not only true but also sheds a new, softer light on those moments from our past we don't feel so proud of.

Book of the Month

Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl StrayedThis month, I finally got around to reading Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Life and Love from Someone Who's Been There by Cheryl Strayed. The book is a collection of letters from her advice column for The Rumpus, with a wide range of subjects including ambivalence around ending relationships, suicidality, writing, bereavement and more.There are several things I loved about this book: first of all, her responses are so good. Like, "How is she not a therapist?!" good. She has a great way of taking even the most tangled, intractable-seeming situations and breaking them down into facts, principles and potential outcomes. Even though I couldn't relate directly to many of the issues people were writing to her about, I felt there was much I learned from reading what she had to say about them. She usually includes stories from her own experience to illustrate her points. More than anything, each answer is beautifully written, deeply compassionate and startlingly frank.

Useful tool of the month

daily stoicThe Daily Stoic is a website that sends out useful emails and advice based on stoicism a few times a week. I've been getting their mailouts since the end of last year and they always offer insightful food for thought around how to live with greater tranquility. There is also a companion book (also called The Daily Stoic), which I haven't read yet but follows a similar principle of one lesson per day.

In case you missed it…

Have a great March!Image: Sticker Mule