Goodbye, February

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Let’s say goodbye to the month that has been and get ready for the next with a roundup of 10 questions, recommended reading, and fun/useful links.Do you enjoy the blog posts, podcasts and resources here? Please consider supporting Becoming Who You Are on Patreon. Your support helps cover the costs of running this site and is hugely appreciated! Pledge as little as $1 a month and get immediate access to bonus content and audios.Hello! I hope you've had a great month so far. I don't know about you, but I'm looking forward to the longer (and hopefully warmer) days of spring arriving soon. Even so, I'm aware of how the passage of time marches on and at this point next month we'll already be a quarter of the way through 2018. The balance between "YOLO! Carpe diem!" and slowing down and remembering not everything needs to happen right now—we have time—is tightrope-thin and one I'm still grappling with. What about you? At the end of the day, I have to remind myself this tension all part of the rich human experience and part of the bittersweet experience of being alive here, today, while knowing one day that won't be the case anymore.WHEW. On that light-hearted note, let's move on to this month's questions...

10 Questions for you


  1. What are three good memories from this month?

  2. What did you create this month?

  3. What was challenging during February?

  4. Describe one experience or interaction you had this month that felt meaningful

  5. What did you watch/read/listen to this month?


  1. How do you want to feel during March?

  2. What are three things you can do to create that feeling?

  3. How will you take care of yourself next month?

  4. What is something you’ve been doing this month that you will stop doing during March?

  5. What is something you’ve been meaning to do that you’ll start doing during March?

Articles of the Month

Moral outrage is self-serving, say psychologistsMost personality quizzes are junk science. I found one that isn't.The real causes of depression have been discovered, and they're not what you thinkTwo words that will make you happier, calmer and more certainHow to conquer your fear of trying new things119 prompts for your journal jar

Quote of the Month

pema chodron quote

pema chodron quote

"Compassion isn’t some kind of self-improvement project or ideal that we’re trying to live up to. Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves, all those imperfections that we don’t even want to look at." —Pema Chodron

Goodbye, January 2018

Goodbye, January 2018

Personal Growth Reading Challenge Update

2018 Personal Growth Reading Challenge - February Update

2018 Personal Growth Reading Challenge - February Update

This month I added three more books to my personal growth reading challenge list: How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen (and Listen so Little Kids Will Talk) by Joanna Faber and Julie King, and You're Going to Survive: True stories about adversity, rejection, defeat, terrible bosses, online trolls, 1-star Yelp reviews, and other soul-crushing experiences―and how to get through itby Alexandra Franzen. Both excellent! I also read Deep Workby Cal Newport. While I wasn't a huge fan of his writing style, the book still offered some useful insights and suggestions related to focus and doing meaningful, distraction-free work.Here's my updated challenge chart. What did you read this month?

Resource of the Month


I'm enjoying The Pessimist's Archive Podcast, which explores our culture's fear and alarmism around new technology by looking at examples of how this has played out time and time again through history. I thought this episode, in particular, was super interesting. It's all about the history of the bicycle and how it freaked. people. out. They've also done great episodes on walkmans, coffee, and whether or not "the good old days" actually exist (spoiler alert: they don't!).My favourite quote so far: "It's as if nothing changes, that we're in a loop, like a wheel, a circular piece of reasoning, forever fearing change then discovering the change we feared had already come and gone, and yet it left us so unchanged that we fear change anew."

In case you missed it: on Becoming Who You Are this month

Too many ideas? Here's what to focus on first

20 journaling prompts to improve your relationship with money

Developing a life-enriching creative practice (and interview with Cherry Jeffs)

Wishing you a wonderful March!

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Cathal Mac an Bheatha