Let’s say goodbye to the month that has been and get ready for the next with a roundup of 10 questions, recommended reading, and fun/useful links.A huge thank you to all my Patreon supporters this month. I appreciate your continued support! If you enjoy Becoming Who You Are and would like bonus content and special rewards, please check out my Patreon page.Hello! I hope you're having a great summer so far. Can you believe we're already halfway through 2017? This pretty much sums up what I'm reminding myself right now:For this month, I'm sharing 10 questions that serve as a kind of mid-year review. This halfway juncture is a great point from which to look back at the last six months, celebrate the good, reflect on the not-so-good, course corrected if needed, and get conscious about who we want to be, how we want to feel, and what we want to create for the rest of this year.A quick note: I'll be looking for beta readers for my new book on self-kindness in the next few weeks. If you'd like to learn more about how to work with (rather than against) your inner critic and are willing to provide your feedback on certain aspects of the book, click here to register your interest in joining the beta reader group.
10 Questions for you
Looking back: the first six months
- What goals/intentions did you set at the beginning of this year? What areas of your life did you want to focus on?
- How are they going so far? Any wins? Any challenges?
- What are you most proud of when you reflect on the first six months of 2017?
- What would you do differently if you could go back and do the last six months again?
- Go back over January to June and describe one special moment you treasure from each month
Looking forward: the next six months
- How would you like to feel about each of the goals or intentions you mentioned above by the end of 2017?
- What would you like to commit (or recommit) to for the rest of this year?
- What would you like more of in the second half of this year? And less of?
- How would you like to remember 2017 at the end of this year? And what can you do (or keep doing) in the next six months to make that happen?
- What would make your 2017 truly special? (I'd love to hear, so leave a comment!)
Articles of the Month
- What makes call-out culture so toxic
- Why I've lost faith in Tony Robbins (and most life coaches)
- Oh Lorde, deliver me from f***ing Joan
- Behind our anxiety, the fear of being unneeded
- Loneliness is a signal, not just a feeling
- Expect a breakthrough
- How to make friends faster
- A guide to dealing with dissatisfaction with ourselves
Quote of the Month
"Our sense of self-worth is much less easily shaken if it is derived from a deeply held sense of self-compassion and self-respect, rather than being contingent on fulfilling certain ideals." - Erin Olivo
Book of the Month
The Self-Acceptance Project is a compilation of 20 essays on self-compassion and self-acceptance from several well-known psychologists, therapists, and spiritual guides compiled by Tami Simon (from Sounds True). While the essays are all on the same topic, it's interesting to see 20 different perspectives and focuses on different aspects of this important quality. No two essays are the same and, while some are a little abstract and woo-woo for me, I feel like I've gained something (insight, understanding, validation, reassurance) from each one. This is a useful book for learning more about what self-acceptance looks like in real life, and also one to pick up when you could use a reminder (and reset) for your own internal dialogue.Get the book here.
Useful Tool of the Month
Day One, IMO the best journal app for Mac and iOS, finally offers end-to-end encryption! I'm doing a happy dance over here because, while I've loved Day One for years, the lack of privacy has meant I've stuck with MacJournal (which, while not a bad journaling tool, is somewhat clunky in comparison and not as easy to use). Until now. What do I love about this app? It's super easy to use (<- very important for this non-techie), you can add multiple journals, photos, metadata (where you are, what the weather is, what you're listening to) tag entries, and it comes with some fun prompts to get you writing. If you're interested in doing so, you can also choose to export certain entries and have them compiled into a coffee-table book, which I imagine would be great for creating keepsakes of vacations, year highlights, etc.(P.S. If you're using Android, this app and this app are apparently good alternatives!)
In case you missed it: on Becoming Who You Are this month
- How to bring out the best in people (a guest post by Antonia)
- How to balance the desire for self-acceptance vs. self-improvement
- 8 lies it's time to stop telling ourselves each day (a guest post by Lynne)
- The lure of spiritual bypassing