Let’s say goodbye to the month that has been and get ready for the next with a roundup of 10 questions, recommended reading, and fun/useful links.A huge thank you to all my Patreon supporters this month. I appreciate your continued support! If you enjoy Becoming Who You Are and would like to help support the site and the work I do here, I am offering special perks and rewards for patrons so please check out my Patreon page.Hello! How are you at the end of this fine month? May has been a biggie on this end. After staying put for a while to welcome tiny human into the world, we've moved to Girona, Spain for the summer. It's is gorgeous here, you guys. Beautiful architecture and a lovely pace of life (we are rocking the family siestas).As well as the move—which was no small feat—I had a fun conversation about self-compassion with Tiina from Illumiations with Tiina and Fi (they also did a lovely mention of my book, From Coping to Thriving), and shared some thoughts about the importance of journaling self-reflection for this article on cultivating an abundance mindset. I'm also making slow but steady progress with the self-kindness book. It's gone through several iterations in the last 18 months and I think I've finally found a structure and focus I'm happy with (phew!). Thank you to everyone who submitted a response to the survey I shared last month. Unless I hit any major bumps in the writing process, I hope to share more with you about the book soon. Let's get to this month's review...
10 Questions for you
- What three words would you use to sum up this month?
- What delighted you in May?
- What would you do differently if you had a May do-over?
- What frustrated you this month? How are you going to change that in June?
- Describe three special moments you treasure from this month?
- Bonus: what did you read/watch/listen to this month?
- What three words would you like to sum up your June?
- If you had 5% more belief in yourself next month, what would you do differently?
- What would you like to learn more about in June?
- How do you plan to have fun in June?
- How are you going to make June the best month of 2017 yet?
Articles of the Month
- Those things by which we get embarrassed
- The simple questions that can improve symptoms of depression
- The 'untranslatable' emotions you never knew you had
- How to get what you want (it's a lot easier than you think)
- Why self-compassion works better than self-esteem
- What do grown children owe their terrible, abusive parents?
- 100 questions to spark conversation and connection
- To stay married, embrace change
- 5 questions that will make you emotionally strong
Quote of the Month
“When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance… provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another.” —Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
Book of the Month
The Emotionally Absent Mother by Jasmin Lee Cori describes the effects of being "undermothered;" experiencing your mother as detached, distant or demeaning. This book is part theory, part practice with opportunities for self-reflection on your own experience of your mother and exercises to process this. I've found it insightful to read this book from the perspective of being both a daughter and a mother. Jasmin Lee Cori is a compassionate writer who shows a great understanding of how important and complicated the mother-child relationship can be.I also enjoyed reading this interview of Jasmin by Sandra Pawula from Always Well Within.
Useful Tool of the Month
"You Feel Like Shit" is an interactive self-care web game/guide that takes you through a series of questions to help you practice. It covers physical and emotional self-care and is great at asking about those things that are so easy to forget (After just three questions, I remembered I needed to take my vitamins and it had been hours since I had a glass of water—win!) It also offers up some useful grounding and exercises for dealing with things like anxiety and practical things we can do if we're feeling depressed, lonely or or foggy/dissociated.
In case you missed it: on Becoming Who You Are this month
- Are you saying sorry when you really mean thank you?
- #110: How to overcome the most common obstacles to self-care (podcast)
- The benefits of journaling your life (a guest post by Rebecca)
- 8 health hacks to increase your productivity (a guest post by Sharon)
- Bullet Journaling 101: What is bullet journaling?
- Bullet Journaling 101: Bullet journaling supplies
- Bullet Journaling 101: How to set up a bullet journal
- Bullet Journaling 101: Bullet journal spreads
Wishing you a wonderful June! Image: Miro Dozo