Goodbye, September

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Let’s say goodbye to the month that has been and get ready for the next with a roundup of 10 questions, recommended reading, and fun/useful links.Do you enjoy the blog posts, podcasts and resources here? Please consider supporting Becoming Who You Are on Patreon. Your support helps cover the costs of running this site and is hugely appreciated! Pledge as little as $1 a month and get immediate access to bonus content and audios.Well that went quickly. September's post is a little late because it didn't quite register that the end of the month was the end of the month. Ever have times like that? I'm sure I'm not the only one...September has been both the busiest and most chill month of this year. Busiest because our family travelled to the US, spoke at the wonderful Freecoast Festival, and have been having fun catching up with old friends and making new ones in New Hampshire. Chill because for the first time since my daughter was born, I've been prioritising fun over work! I haven't felt the usual tension and scarcity about how little I'm "getting done" work-wise now I'm a mother (compared to my expectations of myself).This is a big win for me. For as long as I can remember, I've equated self-worth and productivity. And the two aren't unrelated (having some sense of purpose, direction, and growth trajectory is healthy; it's hard to feel good about ourselves if we're in a perpetual state of taking without contributing, creating, or being constructive in some way). But motherhood has made me face up to some of my irrational and unhelpful beliefs and attachments in this area. It's also made me re-examine and redefine what "being productive" means to me. I've done a lot of inner work this year around identity, what kind of mother I want to be, how I can integrate all the different roles I want to inhabit in my life, and so on, and it's a relief to experience—phew!—this is finally paying off.I also turned 30 this weekend. My 20s were quite the rollercoaster and I feel like a completely different (much happier, much more grounded) person at the end of them than I did at the beginning. A lot of wonderful things have happened and the good has outweighed the bad, but, honestly, if I were offered the chance to live them again, I'd probably politely decline :) I've heard several people say their 30s were much better than their 20s too, so bring it on. I'm ready!This was a longer update than usual, but I appreciate this opportunity to get more personal share with you in semi-real time what's happening in my life (I usually schedule blog content a couple of months in advance because life is a little more unpredictable now I have a kid!).I hope you've had a great September :) Let's move on to this month's prompts...

10 Questions for you


  1. What did you start in September?

  2. And what did you stop?

  3. What is your favourite memory from the past month?

  4. What was challenging this month?

  5. What were your biggest lessons learned this month?


  1. If you approached each day with 5% more optimism in October, what would you do differently?

  2. If you were to live each day in October the way you've lived today, what kind of month would that create?

  3. How will you know if October has been a good month? What would make it so for you?

  4. What is unresolved from September that you'd like to complete, resolve, get closure on, or wrap up in October?

  5. Make a list of 10 fun things you plan to do during October.

Articles of the Month

Quote of the Month

"There's no amount of self-improvement that can make up for a lack of self-acceptance" - Robert Holden

"There's no amount of self-improvement that can make up for a lack of self-acceptance" - Robert Holden

“There's no amount of self-improvement that can make up for a lack of self-acceptance.” – Robert Holden

Book of the Month

Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown

Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown

Braving the Wilderness is, in my opinion, Brené Brown's most personal and timely book yet. Whereas her last three books have formed a trilogy (how to live wholeheartedly, how to get int the arena, how to get back up when you’ve been knocked down), Braving the Wilderness is an equally wonderful book about how we create a sense of belonging without compromising our authenticity, identity, and integrity. While still sharing the research-based findings Brown is well-known for, she has created a moving and perspective-shifting book that shows us how to stay connected (and sane!) while everyone around us seems to be breaking off into “us and them” factions based on emotional triggers and faulty logic.If you’ve ever wondered where you fit in and who you fit in with right now, if you’ve ever felt afraid to speak up for fear of being judged or labelled, if you find yourself feeling disillusioned or frustrated with the way people communicate about important issues, and if you know there is a better alternative to all these things, this book is a must-read.

Resource of the Month

One-to-one chat coaching with

One-to-one chat coaching with is a brilliant app for tracking the habits and goals that further your health, wellbeing and personal growth. It's free to use and, once you've chosen your habits, it's a great platform for checking in daily, tracking your progress, and being able to ask questions of other people working on the same habits. Some of the daily habits I've been tracking using are journaling, writing (book writing and blogging), and walking 10,000 steps.If you'd like extra support, accountability and guidance with individual habits, you can also get one-to-one chat coaching. I recently became a certified digital coach with and have been working with clients on their journaling, writing and creativity for the last couple of months. We focus on building momentum with your chosen habit as quickly as possible, and you'll usually see results within a couple of weeks. Because it's text-based, the coaching fits around your schedule, is super affordable ($2 a day), and allows you to be in regular contact with your coach, rather than just once a week or less. You can find out more about coaching here.

In case you missed it: on Becoming Who You Are this month

Wishing you a wonderful October!   Photo by Autumn Mott on Unsplash

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